At the beginning of mourning, denial and disorientation or confusion are normal. This helps to "cushion the blow" while one comes to terms with the reality of death. Eventually the person will face the grief in order to recover. When denial or numbness wears off, a range of emotions will be experienced. These can be sadness, guilt, anger and sometimes hatred. These are all normal and should be shared with a friend, family member, clergyman or counsel. Some people who cannot easily express how they feel may find it helpful to record their feelings in a journal.
The person who has lost a spouse may need extra help dealing with legal and financial issues as well as assume duties which may have been carried out exclusively by their mate. Community agencies and support organizations may provide guidance and temporary assistance.
Keep in mind that grief can continue and easily degenerate into depression. If a person continues to feel sad or hopeless or experiences difficulty eating, sleeping, experiences poor esteem or has thoughts of suicide, they should seek professional counselling.
